The Steadkind program
A practical path back
to your own choices.
Ten substantial lessons to help you change unwanted findom spending and related patterns. Learn over roughly two weeks, then practice and maintain your plan through day 90 total.
Start where it helps
The first lesson and all urgent tools are free. You can skip the optional reflection and begin with one safeguard today.
Try lesson one freeLearn
10 lessons · 25–35 minutes each, including practical exercises
Practice
Brief check-ins and weekly experiments
Maintain
A flexible plan through day 90
Your foundation
The ten core lessons
Move at your own pace. Revisit a lesson whenever it becomes useful.
Lesson 1: Protect today
Make the next payment less likely and the next hour safer.
A useful next step: Leave with one payment barrier, an urge response and a usable setback card.
30–35 minutes · 15 minutes of practical workFree lesson →Lesson 2: Map the pattern
Find where you can intervene before a decision becomes automatic.
A useful next step: Identify a recent chain of events and two realistic places to change it.
25–30 minutes · 15 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 3: Change access
Give a considered boundary more time to catch up with an impulse.
A useful next step: Build and check two layers of payment or platform friction.
30–35 minutes · 18 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 4: Respond to urges
Practice an action you can take while the feeling is still present.
A useful next step: Rehearse a short urge response and a backup that suits your circumstances.
25–30 minutes · 15 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 5: Understand the payoff
Make room for the need beneath attention, escape or surrender.
A useful next step: Name a sought payoff and plan two safer ways to respond to the underlying need.
30–35 minutes · 15 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 6: Loosen shame
Turn a judgment about yourself into a useful response to a behavior.
A useful next step: Write a fair description of a difficult episode and a repair action.
25–30 minutes · 15 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 7: Rebuild your day
Give the time around a risk window a practical shape.
A useful next step: Create a realistic plan for one vulnerable part of the day.
30–35 minutes · 18 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 8: Choose your boundaries
Define what you will do without needing someone else's permission.
A useful next step: Write a clear boundary, recognize negotiation traps and choose a review point.
30–35 minutes · 15 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 9: Respond to a setback
Stop the next link, address the consequence and learn without a punishment.
A useful next step: Rehearse a response that limits harm and updates one part of your plan.
25–30 minutes · 15 minutes of practical workView lesson →Lesson 10: Make your maintenance plan
Keep useful protections available as everyday life changes.
A useful next step: Create a concise plan for active practice, maintenance and extra support through day 90.
30–35 minutes · 20 minutes of practical workView lesson →
After the lessons
Make a plan that fits real life.
Days 15–42 focus on active practice: trying safeguards, making room for urges, and adjusting boundaries. Days 43–90 focus on maintenance, difficult periods, and responding to setbacks.
Progress comes from what you learn and try. There are no punitive streaks, compulsory exposure exercises, or promises to erase sexual interests.
Open the programInside each lesson
- 01A clear explanation and an original, non-explicit scenario
- 02An editable worksheet for your own situation
- 03One practical action to try away from the screen
- 04Reflection prompts and optional deeper practice
- 05Sources and a takeaway you can return to
This is original, evidence-informed educational material. The program has not been clinically validated and clinician review is pending. Read the methods and sources.